A Practice for Working with Grief (and other difficult emotional states)

• We Resource and connect with the breath as our first and foremost support

• We remember that we have a part of ourselves that can be a friendly, warm and curious witness. Our inner best friend and advocate. Our wise self or inner parent.

• Through the eyes of our inner witness, we attend to the body and NOTICE. Get curious.

• What we notice, we allow for, instead of trying to push it away or fix it.

• We focus on the felt sense by noticing the qualities (such as: size, shape, color, movement, temperature, texture) We ask ourselves and see what arises. “This feeling in my chest, what size is it? Does it have a texture? A color?” etc. 

• We allow it to be whatever  and however it is without trying to change it or judging it.

• We let it move through us without trying to stop it.

• If we need to cry, we cry. Tears are healing

• We stay with the felt sense and stay out of the story. As best we can, we stick with the sensation, rather than jumping into our heads to explain, fix, or understand. 

• We remind ourselves that emotional energy moves in waves, with the crest feeling the most intense. When we are in the thick of it, it is normal to have thoughts like “This is endless” “This will never end” “If I really let myself feel this, I’ll go crazy”. These are just thoughts. This too shall pass.

• We return to the Resource when we need a break or to complete.